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Part 2 – Body Language

This next part will observe a few other signs to look for when spotting a liar. These ones coupled with the previous three are bound to have you on the right track. Keep an open eye and see what you find.

Initial Reaction

When talking to someone pay attention to their initial reaction. This often displays what they are really thinking but unfortunately only lasts for a few seconds. They often realize they are making a face or gesture inconsistent with what they are thinking and immediately try to cover it up. An example would be a friend grinning for a moment after you tell her that your husband just left you. Pay attention to these split second expressions so that your lying friend becomes uncovered.

Late Movements

Be aware of people that make gestures after they make their point. If you notice someone nodding in a confirming manor as they are saying something or before, there is a good chance they are telling the truth. Likewise if you notice someone making a gesture or movement after they have said something, watch out. They do this because they are trying to get their words out as fast as possible. Often after they have said something they want to seem like they are telling the truth so they make a movement consistent with what they have said. Or so they think. The trained eye can tell when someone forces a movement. Like I said in Part 1, stiff inconsistent movements always give it away. 

Watch that Smile

If you look very close you will see that when someone is lying their smiles will only be from the nose down. This is because they simply do not mean what they are trying to portray. If someone is sincere about their smiles their face will light up. Eyes, cheeks, and eye brows smile with the mouth. This is not the case with the liars. They only want to seem happy and joyful when in reality they are thinking something totally different.

Figuring out a lie is sometimes a hard thing to do. Now that you have these two parts to assist you, very few liars should slip through the cracks. Please leave a reply if you feel the need or have any other suggestions or tips. Until then keep your eyes open.

M.B.

Part 1 – Body Language

Are you the type of person that really wants to know what others are thinking? Or do you just want to know if someone is lying to you? Do you want to know if someone really likes you or dislikes you? These are all honest questions that most try to find the answers to but cannot, or they just might be too lazy to look. Either way I am here to help. I have been reading and studying these psychology techniques for years and hope to relay what I have learned so that you are no longer in the dark. This will be the first of a ten part series.

Important: There are certain things to be aware of. Cultural background, race, and gender are all factors that come into play when reading people. Pay attention to the situation and make sure you do not jump to conclusions. In most cases though, these factors can be ignored. So read on and enjoy your journey into the depths of people’s thoughts, and the reasons for them.

I am going to break this series up into small bite sized posts so that you can study and absorb what you have read. Below I have three Body Language tips to be aware of. I found these three tips from David Lieberman’s book, “Never Be Lied To Again.” This is an excellent book that is chalk full of information. Pick it up if you get the chance and read it for yourself. If you are not the book buying type don’t worry, I will have the majority of what he writes about in this series. Here we go.

Eye Contact

If you ever wonder if someone is lying to you, pay attention to the eyes. Have you ever heard the expression “The eye’s never lie?” Well this is somewhat true. If someone is trying to lie or keep something from you they will almost never make eye contact. They will automatically look down and away from you. When someone that lies makes eye contact they almost feel as if you are starring right through them. This is why their initial reaction is to look away. So if you find yourself suspecting a lie stare right at them. If they look down or away beware, this is a sign of deception or guilt.

This is also a plus if you are trying to learn HOW to lie to someone. NOTE: Lying is not something I recommend you learn how to do. If you are reading this I bet it is because you are being lied to in the first place. So try and approach this from a moral side. DON’T LIE!

Physical Expressions

If someone is lying to you they will be secluded and distant. If you ask someone something and they cross their arms or put their hands up to their face, this is a tell tale sign of guilt. They feel as if they have to keep something in or away from you. If you look at someone and they are sitting with their legs crossed but tucked in this is also a sign of guilt. People that know they are lying try and keep things in. Little do they know you are on your way to figuring them out. Now, off to the third body language sign.

Stiff Movements

Some people that have been lying for a long time have figured out some of these techniques. Sorry for them they still do things that are very subtle, yet noticeable. If someone that is good at lying tries to sneak one by you pay attention to their body movements. If they move in a robot type fashion then this is a clue that they are trying to seem like they are not lying but in essence they are forcing their movements. They are stiff and controlled not smooth. Also if someone is lying they will shrug their shoulders SLIGHTLY. This will be where a sharp eye comes into play. If you see this you can bet they are keeping something in.

Now that you know three of the many skills needed to spot a liar, go test your skills. If you find yourself by the person you suspect of lying, bring up the subject that you believe they are lying about. Watch their eyes, their posture, and their body movements. You will be surprised what you find. Once again remember not to jump to conclusions until you have learned some other techniques. Check back for the rest of the series and good luck.

M.B.

This is certainly a topic a lot of people are interested in. I myself find it hard to stay awake when I am bored or disinterested in a subject. What I did was research a few ways to remove boredom from your life. I practiced these three tips and they helped me remove the monotony of my sometimes boring life. So follow along and get rid of that boredom.

Tip 1 – Lie to Yourself

Now Matt why are you telling me to lie to myself? Well the reason for this is simple. If you find yourself in a situation that is far from interesting simply lie to yourself and see how fast it turns around. Say you are learning about a subject that you simply cannot stand. Let’s say History. Well during the instructors lecture instead of wondering when the class is going to be over tell yourself that this is the most interesting class you have ever been too. Actually move forward in your seat and actually get physically involved. Within five minutes or less you will start to find yourself interested in what the professor is saying. You will become more alert and your overall intake of the information will increase. So the next time you are in a situation you hate, lie to yourself. Tell yourself that you would rather be here than anywhere else. I guarantee you will see the difference within minutes.

Tip 2 – Rid Yourself of Worry, Frustration, and Resentment

By trying to rid yourself from these three things you will also notice boredom leaving too. If you worry about something or resent someone or something you often because tired and bored. The reason for this is because worry, frustration, and resentment use more of your energy than anything else. If you use the tips I explained in “How to Stop Worrying“ you will surely find some ways to not only rid yourself from boredom but also the ever so dreadful worry bug. So try and keep your mind clean and free from worry and you will notice a significant decrease in the amount of boredom you encounter.

Tip 3 – Do Things you Enjoy Doing

When all else fails and you still find boredom creeping in, do something you like. What I mean by this is simply working a job you like or partaking in a hobby that interests you. These simple things will help you dramatically. Pick up a book or take a class on something that you have always wanted to do. You will find yourself engrossed in what you are learning and boredom will have no room to enter.

The bottom line is to stick with things you like doing and to avoid the things you cannot stand. If you are in a position where you have to stay working where you are, then make the most of it and lie yourself into liking it. It is a psychological fact that pretending to like something will actually produce the same mental effects as if you were generally interested in what you were doing. So stay positive and keep your mind on what really matters; POSITIVE THOUGHTS.

I have recently come to the conclusion that I am a very lazy person. Yes, I said it, I AM LAZY. I can blame it on the parents, I can blame it on my past, or I can just face the music and admit I am what I am because of my previous decisions. I have honestly noticed a drop in my business production as well as my personal development because of this LAZY bug I have now found in myself. I have always had this but just recently have I noticed it taking its toil on my life. So here is what I have for you. I have devised a twenty-one day detox plan for getting rid of your laziness. Below I have three steps that I am going to use starting TODAY that I believe will make me a more productive person. Let’s face it, if we have everything done that needs to get done throughout the day we feel a lot better about ourselves. We feel as if we have accomplished something and our self esteem begins to rise. Believe it or not discipline leads to good health. So follow me in these three steps that I have started practicing to see what we come up with. By the way, if you are wondering why I have chosen twenty -one days it is because it takes twenty-one days to form a habit. If you can stick with it for that long, odds are you will create a very useful tool. So let’s get started.

Step 1 – Grab the Supplies

After thinking for a bit I realized that I need a few things to get this experiment under way. I went to my nearest retailer and bought a few supplies. Here is what I got. I first bought a planner so that I could write down everything I needed to do for the day. This helped me in two ways. First I have a place that keeps my “Things to Do” organized. Second, I have visual confirmation that I have completed something. What I mean by this is that every time I COMPLETE something on the list I get to cross it off. This gives your subconscious a bit of motivation to move on to the next step. The reason I have capitalized “complete” is for this reason; if you just start something it does not count. You have to actually FINISH what ever it is you started without putting it off. Let me give you an example. Today I had to call and cancel an insurance policy I had on one of my vehicles. Under my list of things to do I had it written as, “Cancel insurance policy.” So when I called to have it canceled they must have been in a meeting and I went straight to voicemail. I left a message for them to call me back and as of right now I am still waiting. Did I cancel it? Not yet. I will not cross it off until they have called me back and it is actually canceled. I know this is a weird scenario but it gets my point across. The second thing is I bought was a two small baskets to put both important and unimportant mail. This way I know what needs to be taken care of and what can wait.

Step 2 – Figure out the Tasks

What I have decided to do was complete ten different tasks every day for twenty-one days. I have also chosen to complete three business tasks totally different from my personal day to day activities. This way Adam and I have a head start with the business as well as our personal lives. In case you were wondering, Adam is partaking in this experiment also, so feel free to read up on how he did when ever the twenty-one days are up. Just because I have chosen to pick ten different personal tasks and three business tasks does not mean that you have to do the same. Start out with what you are comfortable with. If you want to do three total tasks then go for it. This is an experiment not a homework assignment. Start small and work your way up if you have to.

Step 3 – Keep it Simple

Keep in mind that your ten tasks do not have to be huge daunting chores. You don’t have to paint the house, build a deck, change your oil, re-finish the basement and all of that in one day. Keep it small because the small things are what add up. Here is a list of the ten things I decided to do today to start this out.

1.) Dentist Appointment 9:00 am

2.) Write this article

3.) Write my uncle Steve

4.) Call and cancel the insurance

5.) Take a letter to grandma (She lives across the street)

6.) Read two chapters from the book I am reading

7.) Print ONE bill for a customer of mine

8.) Organize my new mail

9.) Start payment sheet for my tenant

10.) Clean my desk off.

Now see, this is not too bad. I finished eight out of ten of these chores within a half hour. I knew this article would take me a bit and I knew that the two chapters in the book I am reading would run me a little time. All I am saying folks is to keep it simple and easy. As you start to run out of things to do, which you will, look around, you will find stuff that you have been putting off for a while. Stick with this for the twenty-one days and you are sure to find yourself a disciplined individual.

Check out what happened:

21 Days to Discipline - Day 1

21 Days to Discipline - Day 2

21 Days to Discipline - Part II

21 Days to Discipline - The Results

The Reason for Our Drive

As with everything we do I usually get a hunch as to what is going to happen as well as some of the questions we will be asked. One of the questions I feel with pop up sooner or later is this; “Why is it that both of you (Adam and Matt) want to have a website about Wealth?”

With a question like that people might have several hundred reasons for doing something. The reason for us is that we have an enormous drive to help people. I guess it’s just in our nature. We believe that giving back will also bring good fortune towards us. I am sure that you have heard it a thousand times that the more you give back the more you will receive. Well as of right now since all we have is an abundance of knowledge this is what we are giving. When the money comes we will be sure to give that back also.

We want people to come to this site and leave a better person. Not just because we made them feel good but because we actually taught them something or gave them an idea that they could apply within their lives. We have even told people things that they needed in order to help others, so in that sense we have killed two birds with one stone. We do not aim to please everyone but we do strive to help some realize that no one person on this earth has gone without problems and worry.

That is the main reason for “MindsofWealth.” We want to share things that we both experienced and ways we overcame them. After all, that is the reason for self help right? You have a problem of some kind and you want to know what you can do to fix it or what you can do to deal with it. If there were no problems we would be writing about comedy or something that we were no good at. So please read on and help yourself with the free knowledge we have provided. It’s our gift to you!