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Part 1 – Body Language

Are you the type of person that really wants to know what others are thinking? Or do you just want to know if someone is lying to you? Do you want to know if someone really likes you or dislikes you? These are all honest questions that most try to find the answers to but cannot, or they just might be too lazy to look. Either way I am here to help. I have been reading and studying these psychology techniques for years and hope to relay what I have learned so that you are no longer in the dark. This will be the first of a ten part series.

Important: There are certain things to be aware of. Cultural background, race, and gender are all factors that come into play when reading people. Pay attention to the situation and make sure you do not jump to conclusions. In most cases though, these factors can be ignored. So read on and enjoy your journey into the depths of people’s thoughts, and the reasons for them.

I am going to break this series up into small bite sized posts so that you can study and absorb what you have read. Below I have three Body Language tips to be aware of. I found these three tips from David Lieberman’s book, “Never Be Lied To Again.” This is an excellent book that is chalk full of information. Pick it up if you get the chance and read it for yourself. If you are not the book buying type don’t worry, I will have the majority of what he writes about in this series. Here we go.

Eye Contact

If you ever wonder if someone is lying to you, pay attention to the eyes. Have you ever heard the expression “The eye’s never lie?” Well this is somewhat true. If someone is trying to lie or keep something from you they will almost never make eye contact. They will automatically look down and away from you. When someone that lies makes eye contact they almost feel as if you are starring right through them. This is why their initial reaction is to look away. So if you find yourself suspecting a lie stare right at them. If they look down or away beware, this is a sign of deception or guilt.

This is also a plus if you are trying to learn HOW to lie to someone. NOTE: Lying is not something I recommend you learn how to do. If you are reading this I bet it is because you are being lied to in the first place. So try and approach this from a moral side. DON’T LIE!

Physical Expressions

If someone is lying to you they will be secluded and distant. If you ask someone something and they cross their arms or put their hands up to their face, this is a tell tale sign of guilt. They feel as if they have to keep something in or away from you. If you look at someone and they are sitting with their legs crossed but tucked in this is also a sign of guilt. People that know they are lying try and keep things in. Little do they know you are on your way to figuring them out. Now, off to the third body language sign.

Stiff Movements

Some people that have been lying for a long time have figured out some of these techniques. Sorry for them they still do things that are very subtle, yet noticeable. If someone that is good at lying tries to sneak one by you pay attention to their body movements. If they move in a robot type fashion then this is a clue that they are trying to seem like they are not lying but in essence they are forcing their movements. They are stiff and controlled not smooth. Also if someone is lying they will shrug their shoulders SLIGHTLY. This will be where a sharp eye comes into play. If you see this you can bet they are keeping something in.

Now that you know three of the many skills needed to spot a liar, go test your skills. If you find yourself by the person you suspect of lying, bring up the subject that you believe they are lying about. Watch their eyes, their posture, and their body movements. You will be surprised what you find. Once again remember not to jump to conclusions until you have learned some other techniques. Check back for the rest of the series and good luck.

M.B.

This is certainly a topic a lot of people are interested in. I myself find it hard to stay awake when I am bored or disinterested in a subject. What I did was research a few ways to remove boredom from your life. I practiced these three tips and they helped me remove the monotony of my sometimes boring life. So follow along and get rid of that boredom.

Tip 1 – Lie to Yourself

Now Matt why are you telling me to lie to myself? Well the reason for this is simple. If you find yourself in a situation that is far from interesting simply lie to yourself and see how fast it turns around. Say you are learning about a subject that you simply cannot stand. Let’s say History. Well during the instructors lecture instead of wondering when the class is going to be over tell yourself that this is the most interesting class you have ever been too. Actually move forward in your seat and actually get physically involved. Within five minutes or less you will start to find yourself interested in what the professor is saying. You will become more alert and your overall intake of the information will increase. So the next time you are in a situation you hate, lie to yourself. Tell yourself that you would rather be here than anywhere else. I guarantee you will see the difference within minutes.

Tip 2 – Rid Yourself of Worry, Frustration, and Resentment

By trying to rid yourself from these three things you will also notice boredom leaving too. If you worry about something or resent someone or something you often because tired and bored. The reason for this is because worry, frustration, and resentment use more of your energy than anything else. If you use the tips I explained in “How to Stop Worrying“ you will surely find some ways to not only rid yourself from boredom but also the ever so dreadful worry bug. So try and keep your mind clean and free from worry and you will notice a significant decrease in the amount of boredom you encounter.

Tip 3 – Do Things you Enjoy Doing

When all else fails and you still find boredom creeping in, do something you like. What I mean by this is simply working a job you like or partaking in a hobby that interests you. These simple things will help you dramatically. Pick up a book or take a class on something that you have always wanted to do. You will find yourself engrossed in what you are learning and boredom will have no room to enter.

The bottom line is to stick with things you like doing and to avoid the things you cannot stand. If you are in a position where you have to stay working where you are, then make the most of it and lie yourself into liking it. It is a psychological fact that pretending to like something will actually produce the same mental effects as if you were generally interested in what you were doing. So stay positive and keep your mind on what really matters; POSITIVE THOUGHTS.

As of yesterday I am still trucking. I have done all of the chores I set forth for myself and feel SOOOOOOO good for doing them. For the next couple of days I am going to skip writing a post because I am almost positive you do not want to hear about how well I am doing. If you feel the need to share your progress please do so. I would love to hear what you went through and how well you are doing. Good Luck!

21 Days to Discipline

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I have never met a business professional that didn’t have a rough morning after a long night of drinking. Lets face it, these are things that we are bound to deal with at some point in our lives, god knows I have had a few rough mornings. Below I have three SIMPLE tips that are guaranteed to remove that nasty hangover. After you read, if you have any tips that you would like to share please do so. Keep in mind that either one of these tips will help you. If you prefer one over the other go for it. These do not need to be done in any specific order or in their entirety. Experiment with them and see what you come up with.

Tip 1 – Water while you Drink

This is a tip that my girlfriend taught me. When ever she orders a drink she gets a small glass of water with it. In between enjoying her beverage she sips some water to keep herself hydrated. Believe it or not this does not diminish the effects of the alcohol, (If you were wondering). The only side effect you will notice is an extra trip to the bathroom here and there. You get the best of both worlds, you have a nice drink and you wake up feeling fine. So if you remember, order a glass of water and sip on that while you enjoy your daiquiri. Odds are you will wake up feeling like a million bucks.

Tip 2 – Milk and Bread

Before you get sick hear me out. THIS WORKS. I remember I did not feel good one morning and a co-worker of mine advised me of this crazy concoction. All she told me to do was eat a few pieces of bread. What this does is soak the alcohol up out of the stomach lining. Then after you have enjoyed your bread sandwich, have a glass of milk. The milk will coat your stomach and act as a Pepto Bismol. Within an hour you will notice the difference. After two hours or less you will be back to your old self. Heck, you might even want to go back to the bar.

Tip 3 – 2 Spoons Full of Honey

No, this is not a Marry Poppins remedy. And I am not a doctor or a honeyologist, I do not know why it works, but it does. Take two teaspoons of honey and within an hour you will start to feel better. It will give you a nice kick if you take it in the morning and the hangover will soon dissipate. Don’t believe me? Try it.

Like I said, any of these three tips will help you and I have personally tried all of them. I honestly prefer the Bread and Milk but if that is not your cup of tea drink some water with your beverage or bong some honey. All three work but it is up to you which one you try. Good Luck!

After day one in our experiment I have decided to keep everyone up to date on how things went. I know it has only been a day but let me explain. In the previous post, “21 Days to Discipline” I said that everyday I would write ten personal goals that I wanted to accomplish and three business oriented goals I wanted to accomplish. The results: ASTONISHING. I am so surprised at the amount I have completed after only one day. If you do not already know myself and Adam own a lawn care business called Appealing Lawn Care LLC. We have had a few landscaping jobs I have been putting off until I added them into my first three things to do. Now as you suspected they are all done. Also I wrote a letter to my uncle that I have not spoken with in months, went to the dentist, read a book, and organized my office. This may sound simple to some people but most put these things off EVERY day. Today I am well on my way to completing my new list and cannot wait to post what happened.

My point with these updates is to let everyone know that small steps eventually turn into big results. Keep focused and remember to write your goals down the night before so that you have them in hand when you start your day.

Matt Batcho

21 Days to Discipline